So my washing machine broke. On the same day as our van. Not a good week. Or so I thought.
Now, we all know how I feel about piled up laundry.... it's a tad overwhelming for me. Having no dryer was bad enough and an adjustment, but I got used to it and didn't mind eventually. It did take more time and pre-planning however.
Fast forward to having piles of laundry, no dryer, no washing machine, no van (though that was brief) and no money to buy another washer. What do I do? Panic? Cry? Yell incoherently? Rant and rave and say "woe is me"? No. I actually tried to fix it. But it defies fixing unless we dump the thing upside down and do surgery on it and that is NOT what I'm planning on doing. If hubby chooses to do so, well, then that's his choice. No. I went to the laundromat.
While camping in Nova Scotia a couple years ago, we encountered a huge thunderstorm that lasted most of the night and drenched our tent and much of our belongings. We, rather I, spent the most of the next day at a laundromat in Truro washing and drying our stuff and I have to say, my experience transformed my previous thinking and preconceptions about laundromats. It was an immaculately clean, bright, cheery and most pleasant place to spend the day. Comfy chairs, wide variety of magazines, many machines and helpful staff for the uninitiated.
Having that memory in mind, I searched for the best place to wash my clothes that I could find. The first place was more like my childhood memories and though it was adequate and close to my favourite dollar and grocery store, I wanted to find someplace better. And I did. I've been back there twice now and would highly recommend it. The woman on duty was helpful and didn't mind showing me how to do things, there were lots of machines of all sizes and I was happy to know that my many baskets of dirty clothes fit quite nicely into the two biggest machines, saving time and money.
Joy came because I discovered that the semi-pristine state of the laundromat (or rather, the lack of kids toys, work paraphenelia and the cluttered state of my house), the comforting hum of the machines and the quiet soothed my senses and restored my peace in a way I didn't expect. Yes, I'm putting money into someone else's pocket and I have to load and unload my laundry but for now, I'm fine with all of this. It is 2 hours of enforced slow time for me where I can relax and be quiet if I so choose. The bonus of course is that my laundry gets done completely from start to finish so that when I walk in the door all that needs doing is to put it away. Joy.
Sunday, May 25, 2008
Thursday, May 22, 2008
Just When I Think...
That my life seems to be settling down...it doesn't.
We have been having ongoing problems with our van. We have put more money into fixing it in the last year than the whole silly thing is worth. This van worked well until the year 2006, coincidentally when it turned 5 years old. That was the end of our carefree vehicle days. Since then we have plugged thousands of dollars into this beast with so very little payoff. The difficulty lies in that we need the beast. It carries my husband to work every day and it gets us places when it decides it's in a good mood. When it's not in a good mood, look out!
The latest difficulty lay with both the transmission and the replaced engine. The transmission was rebuilt not that long ago. All felt fine, sort of. Then the boys went on their annual fishing trip and it was nothing but headache. So he takes it to the people who did the work. "It's fine" they say and top up the fluids. "It's NOT fine" says my hubby, gritting his teeth all the way to the camp. Hubby's father was also at the camp and since he has a personal connection to the transmission people, he made some calls and convinced them to take another look at our van. Which they did and where they agreed that "yes, there was a problem and it's now fixed." We, ever the skeptics, thought "we'll see". But surprisingly, it was fixed and worked well.
That was last week. At the end of week, hubby found out the guys who had worked (or pretended to work) on our van in the past were cheating their customers (surprise, surprise) and took it one step too far when they cheated hubby's boss. We don't like to wish ill-will on anyone but I have zero respect for businesses that are not straight-up guys and that will charge for any and everything. Hubby had already declared they would never see our business again and now a local business has declared the same thing. Our reasons for not liking them are many but the pressing issue was the ominous jolt or clunk coming from the front end of the van. These guys were supposed to have fixed the problem but apparently didn't.
So here we are at last Sunday. We had a great time visiting family for a much needed and much delayed family Easter get-together. As usual we were the last to leave at around 10 pm and I'm driving. It's dark out and everyone is tuckered out but happy. Until we are climbing a hill and the engine light comes on. Panic is setting in...you know the cold clammy feeling that starts out in the pit of your stomach and unless you hold it together you might just run screaming out of control somewhere. I pseudo-calmly ask hubby, who is sleeping at this moment, what light this is that just appeared? "What light?" spoken in a fearful almost panicky voice. "Uh, that one" I reply, knowing this is going to start a whole host of not-to-be-contemplated responses. "That's the engine light. That's not good" and a big big sigh. "I hate this van. I hate this van. I hate this van" is my rant for the next 10 minutes. Then I start to pray because as is my tendency, when push comes to shove, it is moments like these that drive me to my knees. God is my calmness and endless source of strength and He didn't fail me then either. I'm just praying to get home safely, not having any idea what could be wrong but knowing that anything that has to do with the engine light is never a good thing and is never cheaply fixed. Just as we are heading off the highway, the speedometer goes haywire and I gingerly ask hubby if this is a problem. "No, it does that." Oh. Okay.
What followed was a sleepless, restless but prayerfilled night and I was knew that God would provide and He would get us through this, just like every other thing we've been through. Since the next day was a holiday, we had time to think about what we would do, actions we would take and talked to my sister & brother-in-law who were a source of encouragement and prayer. The next day Hubby drove the van to work, praying all the way, and took it in to the mechanic right next to the guys we declared incompetent. And miracles of miracles, they fixed everything...the ABS malfunction, the engine light mystery (which turned out to be the cheapest fix of all that they fixed) and the "by the way, the struts that were supposedly fixed? Well, they weren't but we'll do them" repair. And though it cost us over $700 we were able to put it on the boss' tab with payments to come out over the next few months. And so for one day, all was truly well with the van.
Until yesterday. Now what? you ask. My thought exactly. Guess? It was the transmission's turn since the transmission and the engine seem to be taking turns failing us. The positive side is that since it is still under warranty this repair would be free (as the last one was). So hubby's dad came to the rescue and drove down to swap vehicles last night and took our van in this morning. And all that was wrong was a loose wire. Which they fixed. Promptly. Which was most likely jarred loose when they looked at it last week.
My gratitude today? That there is answer to prayer. God heard. I know He did. He put people in our path who encouraged us, prayed for us and assisted us as we needed it in the way we needed it. We still need another van for work since ours has more rust spots than is acceptable to the boss. So that is an ongoing prayer. I just am grateful that God cares about us. I still hate it when a vehicle becomes mysteriously off, when I can't trust it to be reliable any more. I fear getting stranded some where with no way to get it fixed. But God is in the present and I can not do anything about my future by worrying needlessly. God provided and He is good and He will continue to be who He is. I am thankful.
Rejoice in the Lord; I will say it again, Rejoice. Be anxious for nothing but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God which transcend all understanding will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.
We have been having ongoing problems with our van. We have put more money into fixing it in the last year than the whole silly thing is worth. This van worked well until the year 2006, coincidentally when it turned 5 years old. That was the end of our carefree vehicle days. Since then we have plugged thousands of dollars into this beast with so very little payoff. The difficulty lies in that we need the beast. It carries my husband to work every day and it gets us places when it decides it's in a good mood. When it's not in a good mood, look out!
The latest difficulty lay with both the transmission and the replaced engine. The transmission was rebuilt not that long ago. All felt fine, sort of. Then the boys went on their annual fishing trip and it was nothing but headache. So he takes it to the people who did the work. "It's fine" they say and top up the fluids. "It's NOT fine" says my hubby, gritting his teeth all the way to the camp. Hubby's father was also at the camp and since he has a personal connection to the transmission people, he made some calls and convinced them to take another look at our van. Which they did and where they agreed that "yes, there was a problem and it's now fixed." We, ever the skeptics, thought "we'll see". But surprisingly, it was fixed and worked well.
That was last week. At the end of week, hubby found out the guys who had worked (or pretended to work) on our van in the past were cheating their customers (surprise, surprise) and took it one step too far when they cheated hubby's boss. We don't like to wish ill-will on anyone but I have zero respect for businesses that are not straight-up guys and that will charge for any and everything. Hubby had already declared they would never see our business again and now a local business has declared the same thing. Our reasons for not liking them are many but the pressing issue was the ominous jolt or clunk coming from the front end of the van. These guys were supposed to have fixed the problem but apparently didn't.
So here we are at last Sunday. We had a great time visiting family for a much needed and much delayed family Easter get-together. As usual we were the last to leave at around 10 pm and I'm driving. It's dark out and everyone is tuckered out but happy. Until we are climbing a hill and the engine light comes on. Panic is setting in...you know the cold clammy feeling that starts out in the pit of your stomach and unless you hold it together you might just run screaming out of control somewhere. I pseudo-calmly ask hubby, who is sleeping at this moment, what light this is that just appeared? "What light?" spoken in a fearful almost panicky voice. "Uh, that one" I reply, knowing this is going to start a whole host of not-to-be-contemplated responses. "That's the engine light. That's not good" and a big big sigh. "I hate this van. I hate this van. I hate this van" is my rant for the next 10 minutes. Then I start to pray because as is my tendency, when push comes to shove, it is moments like these that drive me to my knees. God is my calmness and endless source of strength and He didn't fail me then either. I'm just praying to get home safely, not having any idea what could be wrong but knowing that anything that has to do with the engine light is never a good thing and is never cheaply fixed. Just as we are heading off the highway, the speedometer goes haywire and I gingerly ask hubby if this is a problem. "No, it does that." Oh. Okay.
What followed was a sleepless, restless but prayerfilled night and I was knew that God would provide and He would get us through this, just like every other thing we've been through. Since the next day was a holiday, we had time to think about what we would do, actions we would take and talked to my sister & brother-in-law who were a source of encouragement and prayer. The next day Hubby drove the van to work, praying all the way, and took it in to the mechanic right next to the guys we declared incompetent. And miracles of miracles, they fixed everything...the ABS malfunction, the engine light mystery (which turned out to be the cheapest fix of all that they fixed) and the "by the way, the struts that were supposedly fixed? Well, they weren't but we'll do them" repair. And though it cost us over $700 we were able to put it on the boss' tab with payments to come out over the next few months. And so for one day, all was truly well with the van.
Until yesterday. Now what? you ask. My thought exactly. Guess? It was the transmission's turn since the transmission and the engine seem to be taking turns failing us. The positive side is that since it is still under warranty this repair would be free (as the last one was). So hubby's dad came to the rescue and drove down to swap vehicles last night and took our van in this morning. And all that was wrong was a loose wire. Which they fixed. Promptly. Which was most likely jarred loose when they looked at it last week.
My gratitude today? That there is answer to prayer. God heard. I know He did. He put people in our path who encouraged us, prayed for us and assisted us as we needed it in the way we needed it. We still need another van for work since ours has more rust spots than is acceptable to the boss. So that is an ongoing prayer. I just am grateful that God cares about us. I still hate it when a vehicle becomes mysteriously off, when I can't trust it to be reliable any more. I fear getting stranded some where with no way to get it fixed. But God is in the present and I can not do anything about my future by worrying needlessly. God provided and He is good and He will continue to be who He is. I am thankful.
Rejoice in the Lord; I will say it again, Rejoice. Be anxious for nothing but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God which transcend all understanding will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.
Saturday, May 3, 2008
Feeling accomplished
Well, not accomplished in the "I just published something" or "I climbed a mountain" or "I performed a musical piece flawlessly"...no, not that. I accomplished something that this morning I didn't think I could nor did I feel like it. I did laundry. Yes, I know that is neither earth-shattering nor is it a WOW moment but for me, it was a huge hurdle I had to overcome. And I did.
My environment plays into my moods and emotions very much. I don't necessarily like that what surrounds affects me so vividly but I am coming to accept that it does. With that acceptance, I have to learn to navigate those moods and change my environment so the two work together and not against me. All that means is that in its simplest form, if my house is a mess and cluttered, then my mind mirrors that as do my emotions. I have a hard time thinking clearly, I get frustrated and angry more easily and my energy level is low. But when I get to the point where I can not stand being in this house, my motivation is high, my energy level is high and I'm driven to clean and order my environment. And as soon as I do, my thinking, my feelings and my spiritual state seem to fall back into balance and order once again.
So the laundry issue has been a problem. I never seem to finish the laundry. I get a lot of it done. But there is always some still left in the hamper or the floor or in some hidden spot so it is never completely finished. And that bugs me. I don't like things undone. I don't like projects left unattended or incomplete. Part of why is that I lose my motivation and then I have a hard time gettting back to it in order to complete it as well as I started it. So when the laundry piles up, I do what I have to but its always there, taunting me and making my environment never fully ordered. Its like little dust piles here and there. On the whole, the house may seem clean but I know there is dust, I know there is still laundry to do, I know I have little projects here and there that are not done and I hate that. And I feel unorganized and mind-messy.
So the fact that I made a huge dent in the laundry today is a good thing. The difficult thing is that with 6 people living, breathing, and wearing clothes on a daily basis in this house, the piles I washed today will be replaced by piles that are once again dirty. And so the cycle begins again. I realize on a very practical level that if I had a dryer, this might not be as big of an issue as it is right now...waiting for clothes to dry on a line takes time and patience. And that time means my drive weakens and my desire to get the laundry completed becomes overshadowed by the lack of drive. Ugh.
It's just laundry.
And yet it's so much more.
My environment plays into my moods and emotions very much. I don't necessarily like that what surrounds affects me so vividly but I am coming to accept that it does. With that acceptance, I have to learn to navigate those moods and change my environment so the two work together and not against me. All that means is that in its simplest form, if my house is a mess and cluttered, then my mind mirrors that as do my emotions. I have a hard time thinking clearly, I get frustrated and angry more easily and my energy level is low. But when I get to the point where I can not stand being in this house, my motivation is high, my energy level is high and I'm driven to clean and order my environment. And as soon as I do, my thinking, my feelings and my spiritual state seem to fall back into balance and order once again.
So the laundry issue has been a problem. I never seem to finish the laundry. I get a lot of it done. But there is always some still left in the hamper or the floor or in some hidden spot so it is never completely finished. And that bugs me. I don't like things undone. I don't like projects left unattended or incomplete. Part of why is that I lose my motivation and then I have a hard time gettting back to it in order to complete it as well as I started it. So when the laundry piles up, I do what I have to but its always there, taunting me and making my environment never fully ordered. Its like little dust piles here and there. On the whole, the house may seem clean but I know there is dust, I know there is still laundry to do, I know I have little projects here and there that are not done and I hate that. And I feel unorganized and mind-messy.
So the fact that I made a huge dent in the laundry today is a good thing. The difficult thing is that with 6 people living, breathing, and wearing clothes on a daily basis in this house, the piles I washed today will be replaced by piles that are once again dirty. And so the cycle begins again. I realize on a very practical level that if I had a dryer, this might not be as big of an issue as it is right now...waiting for clothes to dry on a line takes time and patience. And that time means my drive weakens and my desire to get the laundry completed becomes overshadowed by the lack of drive. Ugh.
It's just laundry.
And yet it's so much more.
Friday, May 2, 2008
Celebrating our life
I am happy to report that I am feeling much better. Fantastically better, compared to how I was. Just an update...shortly after Mom Gill died and the funeral and that was done, I woke up and truly felt like myself....finally. That was a very long time coming.
Feeling better created such a spirit of renewal within me. I started on a spree of housecleaning and sweeping out all the cobwebs, so to speak, within the house and within me. I finished cleaning the main floor, began scanning all the photo albums kicking around my house and went through a personal assessment of my past and actually survived all that.
Part of this clean sweep process was evaluating myself, looking back into my past, into those things that hurt me, that I regretted, that I abhorred about myself and dealing with it. Truly dealing with it...looking at the event through more mature eyes and facing my sin where there was sin. It hurt and it frustrated me but through that process, God spoke to me. He reminded me that He loves me. Love, however, does not look away from sin nor excuse it nor does it sweep that under the rug. I have to deal with myself. As much as I like to run the other way when I'm embarrassed or humiliated or ashamed or just plain wrong, I cannot do that. Not if I want to live with integrity and not if I want to abide in God.
Humility and honesty helped clear up some issues with my husband and that was very much needed. There is joy in that. So much joy...and peace too. Our lines of communication seem to be more open ( I hope that isn't just my skewed perception) and we can deal with those tough and touchy issues without the cold shoulders and slamming doors.
Celebrating was a big theme for me the past few months. I craved to know joy and to understand celebration. That concept is not easy for me to get nor is it easy to implement on a day to day basis. But I'm learning. I am much more present when the kids are here, talking to me, trying to get my attention. And I'm learning to pay attention to their excitement, their joy, their moods. As part of that, I've started to celebrate their "birth" days...the actual day of the week they were born in. On that day, that child gets to plan whatever he wants (within reason) with either the whole family or just a parent. Snacks, a meal, games, park, craft...whatever they want, they can plan but not repeat too often. So far, I think it's been good, and even fun. The kids have taken it up and but need reminders a few days a head of time as to what they want to do. They like that they have the control but also that this day is much about them and what they like to do and who they want to do it with.
What I like about that is that it takes the pressure off me to plan things and then not do it. The kids take ownership of it, and we spend time together doing things that they always want to do but don't for whatever reason.
Celebrating...I'm learning.
And now, for the next few months I am going to be learning about the discipline of slowing down...not that THAT is my problem. :)
Feeling better created such a spirit of renewal within me. I started on a spree of housecleaning and sweeping out all the cobwebs, so to speak, within the house and within me. I finished cleaning the main floor, began scanning all the photo albums kicking around my house and went through a personal assessment of my past and actually survived all that.
Part of this clean sweep process was evaluating myself, looking back into my past, into those things that hurt me, that I regretted, that I abhorred about myself and dealing with it. Truly dealing with it...looking at the event through more mature eyes and facing my sin where there was sin. It hurt and it frustrated me but through that process, God spoke to me. He reminded me that He loves me. Love, however, does not look away from sin nor excuse it nor does it sweep that under the rug. I have to deal with myself. As much as I like to run the other way when I'm embarrassed or humiliated or ashamed or just plain wrong, I cannot do that. Not if I want to live with integrity and not if I want to abide in God.
Humility and honesty helped clear up some issues with my husband and that was very much needed. There is joy in that. So much joy...and peace too. Our lines of communication seem to be more open ( I hope that isn't just my skewed perception) and we can deal with those tough and touchy issues without the cold shoulders and slamming doors.
Celebrating was a big theme for me the past few months. I craved to know joy and to understand celebration. That concept is not easy for me to get nor is it easy to implement on a day to day basis. But I'm learning. I am much more present when the kids are here, talking to me, trying to get my attention. And I'm learning to pay attention to their excitement, their joy, their moods. As part of that, I've started to celebrate their "birth" days...the actual day of the week they were born in. On that day, that child gets to plan whatever he wants (within reason) with either the whole family or just a parent. Snacks, a meal, games, park, craft...whatever they want, they can plan but not repeat too often. So far, I think it's been good, and even fun. The kids have taken it up and but need reminders a few days a head of time as to what they want to do. They like that they have the control but also that this day is much about them and what they like to do and who they want to do it with.
What I like about that is that it takes the pressure off me to plan things and then not do it. The kids take ownership of it, and we spend time together doing things that they always want to do but don't for whatever reason.
Celebrating...I'm learning.
And now, for the next few months I am going to be learning about the discipline of slowing down...not that THAT is my problem. :)
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